6 success principles to make the changes you want in life
Author: Lindsey Agness
Menopause comes at a time in a woman’s life when there’s a whole lot of other stuff going on: career changes, elderly parents, children leaving home… adding more stress to the mix. So do you find yourself at a crossroads? Are you considering changing career, becoming healthier and fitter, re-vitalising or changing your relationship or maybe filling a void left by children leaving home? Wherever you are now, it’s never too late to start something new.
Lindsey Agness, a certified Master Trainer of NLP and Founder of Age with Attitude, shares her ‘6 Success Principles’ to help you make the changes you want in life.
Principle No. 1- Get Clear on What You Want
Think about something important that you want to achieve over the next twelve months. What really motivates you? Now check that goal is SMART ie Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timed. For example, I want to lose weight is not clear enough. I want to lose 10 pounds by 1st December is clear. Focus on your goal. Whatever you put your attention on in your life will grow stronger. Write down your goal and check that it is SMART.
Principle No. 2 – Know Why it is a Must
What are your reasons for wanting to achieve this goal? List all the positive things that will happen when you achieve your goal. Now ask yourself ‘If I don’t do this now what will it ultimately cost me?’ Notice that when you have enough compelling reasons for your goal you will be more motivated to go for it.
Principle No. 3 – Take Massive Action
Are you prepared to do whatever it takes to achieve your goal including things you do not want to do? Think right now of one small step you can take today to begin to move towards your goal. Challenge yourself by asking if you are taking personal and 100% responsibility for your goal. Because, to the extent that you do not, you are giving your personal power away.
Principle No. 4 – Know What you are Getting
Be very aware of what works and what doesn’t. Ask for feedback, and constantly evaluate your approach. Think of feedback as a gift and remember to learn from any action that doesn’t go quite to plan.
Principle No. 5 – Be Prepared to Change Your Approach
There is a saying ‘if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got!’ You must be prepared to be flexible and to move into the unknown. Security is an attachment to the known and the known is our past. No evolution in that. When you experience uncertainty, you know you are on the right track – keep going because this is the moment when lots of women will give up.
Principle No. 6 – Ask for Help from Those who are Already Successful
When making changes, the most successful people in life model those who have already ‘done it’. They do this by mixing with like-minded people, going on courses, being coached or simply asking for advice. You will find that with the appropriate support, the process of change becomes less scary and more enjoyable and your chances of success will be greatly increased.
About the Author
Lindsey Agness is the Founder of Age with Attitude and a Certified Master Trainer of NLP. She wrote the best-selling book ‘Change Your Life with NLP’ which has sold over 50,000 copies and has been translated into many different languages. To find out more about her work visit: agewithattitude.co.uk